Couples often wonder whether their partner loves them as much as they do. The reason this is so common is that we all have our own ways of showing love. What many people don’t understand is that your partner can love you as much as you love them, but show it in very different ways, and by only acknowledging our personalized view of showing love, we fail to see what our partner does for us. Therefore, to help you understand your partner’s feelings here’s how to know if they love you the same way you do. 

Understand Their Love Language

Psychologist Gary Chapman opened our eyes to the 5 love languages that explain how each person shows their love in different ways. The 5 love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch, and receiving/giving gifts. People typically have a couple of love languages, but one prominent one is not only the way they show love but the way they wish to receive love, too. So, by understanding your partner’s love language, you will learn how they show they love you. For example, if your love language is words of affirmation and your partner’s is acts of service, understand that when they provide acts of service for you such as doing something thoughtful or considerate, it is as meaningful as it would be for you to offer them words of affirmation like telling them consistently how much they mean to you.  

They Trust You

Trust is the most important aspect of a relationship, so if you want to be sure that your partner loves you as much as you love them, consider the trust between you two. Aside from showing signs of loyalty, having trust in your relationship means you’re able to confide in one another, that you value each other’s opinion, and you both feel safe in your partnership. Trust will open the door for vulnerability. It will allow a couple to share their feelings with one another without fear of judgment. 

Learning how to communicate with your partner and have the discussions you need to grow as a couple can take time. Therefore, knowledge is power in this case. The more you ask questions about love, the better equipped you’ll be to handle the different stages of your relationship. Then, you’ll be able to overcome any obstacles that come your way as you’ll have a solid foundation to build your relationship on and will be certain that you and your partner share the same values.  This approach not only strengthens your bond but also helps you develop a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and desires. As you grow more confident in navigating your own relationship, you may even find yourself offering advice or learning how to matchmake for friends, using the insights you’ve gained. Ultimately, open communication and shared values create a lasting connection that can inspire those around you.

They Support You 

If your partner supports your goals, it is a clear indication that they care deeply about you and want to see you succeed. Many couples struggle to not compete when it comes to personal successes, which is why it can take time for a couple to learn to support each other. But, if you see that your partner not only supports you, but pushes you to be the best version of yourself, and they don’t allow you to make excuses or quit your dreams, it’s a surefire sign that they love you very much. After all, independence is a huge part of a successful relationship, and your partner should want you to have your own identity and goals. Couples who genuinely care about each other will support each other’s respective dreams. 

They Prioritize You 

Perhaps one of the best indicators that your companion is in this for the long haul is if they factor you in all their life decisions. A partner who doesn’t take on a new job without discussing the change with you, discusses financial issues as a unit, and prioritizes how any of their plans may affect your life, is definitely making room for you in their future. If your significant other consider you in all their decisions, you have officially become a team. 

You and your other half may not show your love for one another in the same way, but as long as you both value the same things in a relationship such as honoring each other’s boundaries, respecting their core beliefs, and having each other’s backs, you can guarantee that they love you as much as you love them. As long as you both trust each other, are able to find effective ways to communicate your needs and concerns, and prioritize each other in your life, it won’t matter how you show your love, it will only matter that you do. As long as you appreciate and respect one another, your relationship will continue to grow and remain a loving union.