Everyone’s wedding day visions are different. For some, the traditional church wedding is everything. Others have saved for a destination wedding. And then there are those that want something more reflective of who they are.

That said, many couples are hesitant to pack on the personality for their big day. Sometimes, an unconventional wedding can get a bad rap with guests for being too over the top or gaudy. Honestly, though, who cares?

If there was ever a day made for self-expression, it’s your wedding day. You can represent the personality of your coupledom gracefully and fully. Here’s how:

Consider Incorporating a Theme

If there was a theme that could be a genuine expression of who you are as a couple, what would it be? Take that theme and run with it on your wedding day.

For example, let’s say you and your fiance are 90s fanatics. You love everything about the 90s, and your friends and family know it. In that case, incorporating a 90’s theme on your wedding day could be fun.

Ask your guests to dress in attire from the 90s. You and your spouse can dress accordingly as well. Your cake, decor, music, and other wedding day activities can also represent this era.

Another idea for expressing your coupledom on your wedding day is to make your own decor.

Make Your Own Decor

Think about making your own decor to help give your wedding the touch of you and your future spouse you envision.

You could use faux shrubbery instead of lining the aisle with fresh flowers. Create centerpieces out of candy and other crafts. You could also sew your tablecloths and design personalized placement cards.

Ditching the traditional wedding dress and the tux might suit you better too.

Ditch the Traditional Wedding Dress and Tux

You don’t have to wear the traditional white dress and black tux on your wedding day unless that’s you. If this conventional wedding attire isn’t you, ditch it and dress up like you want to on your big day.

If you’re a casual couple, matching sweatsuits might be perfect. Maybe you both wear something with pants. You could add original accessories or cultural garb to your outfits. Changing the color of your attire to reflect your personalities is a good idea too.

What you do with your bridesmaids and groomsmen can also be unique to you.

Do Something Different With Your Bridesmaids and Groomsmen

Letting your personality as a couple shine through your bridesmaids and groomsmen is another brilliant idea. You could choose your children as your bridesmaids and groomsmen. Your parents could stand with you. You could even include your pets.

In addition, you could ask your bridesmaids and groomsmen to wear unique outfits and add original accessories like silver finger rings or cultural garbs.

You could also do something different with where you get married.

Get Married in the Place Most You

Church, destination, and beach weddings may be some couples’ dreams, but they don’t have to be yours. It’s important to get married in the place you want to, regardless of expectation.

See if your favorite bar or restaurant is willing to host your wedding. Use yours or a loved one’s backyard for your big day. Or maybe a mountain top, underwater, or an amusement park suit you better.

Have your wedding somewhere that reminds you of your love for one another.

Exchange Unique Wedding Vows and Bands

Unconventional wedding vows and bands can also bring a pop of personality to your wedding day.

What if you let your maid of honor and best man write a short story about how they view your love? Or maybe you and your future spouse write a poem to each other or express your love in a painting, song, or video. Don’t put any limits on how you exchange your wedding vows.

Think outside the box with your wedding bands too. You don’t have to exchange rings at all. Maybe you get tattoos on your ring fingers, exchange smartwatches, or give each other handmade necklaces instead.

Do it Big for Your First Dance

The first dance is a fantastic opportunity for self-expression on your wedding day. The spotlight is on the both of you, waiting for you to break out into a dance that truly represents how you groove as a couple.

Brainstorm some first dance ideas with your fiance. Think about the song you want to dance to. Or maybe you want to learn something like a ballroom or salsa number. Whatever your dance of choice is, give yourself time to rehearse so it’s seamless on the big day.

Remember That it’s YOUR Big Day

At the end of the day, this is YOUR wedding day. Not all of your guests are going to like or understand everything you decide to do, and that’s okay.

If you want to play games at the reception, make it happen. If you want to elope and have a big party later, do that. If you want to wear sweats and tennis shoes on your wedding day, go for it.

As long as your wedding represents you and your future spouse in the most authentic way possible, that’s all that matters.

Conclusion

Your wedding day should represent who you are as individuals and as a couple. So, visualize what you want your wedding day to be like, and bring that vision to life within your budget and with all of who you are.